The Stop Giving List?!

Dec 7, 2015 at 9:42 AM

where to give - generosity gameplanAs you would expect, I have lots of conversations with my friends and clients about charitable giving and volunteering. And I’ve discovered that some of them don’t care for the word generous to describe themselves.

My friend Mike Klonne says that generosity isn’t a word that he would attach to what he does. “I would personally describe my volunteering and helping as a blessing given to me that I have been fortunate enough to realize.” I appreciate Mike’s sense of gratitude and outward focus in what he does and I know that along with his list of where to give came a stop giving list too. Mike is volunteering and giving to create change in kids’ lives, his heart’s desire. He is not just responding to requests.

Mike knows that the root words for generosity, genus and osus, come together to form an expression of being fully engaged in life by being fully connected to the community. So his generosity is grounded in meaningful relationships, and these relationships form the very crux of transformational, rather than transactional, generosity for him.

As 2015 draws to a close, I wonder: Has getting clear about your Generosity Gameplan helped you create a stop giving list so you can give more to your heart’s desire? Let me know.

Read my book, Connected for Good: A Gameplan for a Generous Life, to find confidence in your giving, as well as where you choose to stop giving.

2 responses to “The Stop Giving List?!”

  1. Gary Rosberg says:

    Great blog post… I recently took part in a generous giving opportunity… A number of us challenged each other to take a $100 bill and seek someone we didn’t know, was a person vs an organization and to give them an unsuspected gift and just bless them. My recipient was a high school student who I learned gave up basketball to work at McDonalds (my wife’s first job as a teenager as well). I didn’t know her need but she served me one morning and I asked her if I could bless her as God has blessed me. The look on her face was priceless when she said “you can’t do that”…and I replied “you don’t know my name, nor will you, I just wanted to bless you a bit as I have been blessed by God.” She asked for a hug, I bolted and she turned to her co workers and celebrated the unsuspecting tip. What did I learn? To bless others blesses us more than we could ever imagine. If I had thought about “not giving” I would have missed a much bigger blessing than this young woman. I am grateful. Blessings to you John Stanley! You and Jamee have blessed Barb and me over and over again. Merry Christmas

  2. Tom Curl says:

    Not to put too fine a point in this as I generally agree with John’s “stop giving” scenario, but there are times when I contribute because of a request. That is when a person I respect and admire is giving his or her time and treasure to help other and is asking me to helped them with the work they are blessed to do. This means that I ignore direct-mail requests and phone calls from organizations where I know no one involved. Like your friend Mike, “generous” is not how I feel when I contribute time, talent or dollars. Rather, I feel “gratitude” for the blessing I’ve received.

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