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Living Connected - In The Zone

Jun 9, 2015 at 1:30 PM

generosity gameplan puzzle piecesLast week I received an email from a friend who shared an experience she had after having read Connected for Good.

She wrote: “I’m going to pick up your book again this week. Every time I do, something good happens! You are so right-I have felt I have little to give when those around me are so much more financially successful than I am. We’re doing really fine, but comparatively, I cannot afford to give $100K away with my children in college. But what I can give are my connections and gratitude. Thanks to you.

Last week I read your book at 7:00 a.m. for daily motivation (to get in the zone) , got a haircut – and my stylist said ‘no charge!’ I have been going to her for 20 years and she never offered this before! Then I went to judge a business competition at my alma mater, and gave a homeless man at Kwik Trip $15 for hot soup (along with a suggestion to check out a local shelter)…”

I loved my friend being “in the zone” enough to recognize her hairdresser’s act as a generous one and not simple reciprocity; I loved that she was grateful for a twenty year relationship and it reminded her of her heart’s desire; to help a homeless man. Now, that’s being connected for good!

I wonder, have you had experiences that help you realize that bigger giving isn’t necessarily better, but better giving is better? I would love to hear about it!

Are you ready to experience generosity “in the zone?” Read my book, Connected for Good: A Gameplan for a Generous Life, to discover how.

4 responses to “Living Connected – In The Zone”

  1. Wayne McDaniel says:

    What a great story. I have experienced what she wrote, but not very often. Most of the time I am too busy. Or, so it seems. I have a thousand things on my todo list. And that seems to control my life. If you aren’t on it, you may not get noticed. Yet, even on a busy day, I have noticed that when I am intentional with my attitude, I can and do see the needs of others and see the little generosities of some. So, I know my business is an excuse. I have a packed schedule today, but I am going to live it with an open heart and open eyes.

  2. Mary Helen Franko says:

    Twice in one week I was the recipient of someone I didn’t know “paying it forward.” Once in a fast food car line, when the car ahead paid for mine, and I paid for the next car. The second time was at the movie & dinner theatre, and when we got up to leave we found that the people next to us, who had already left, had paid for our dinner. WOW! The next morning, I stopped along the highway to get gas. A man approached me because he didn’t have enough money to get home. I only had small change, not even any green. So after giving him about 75 cents in change, I just told him to back up to the pump, and I filled his gas tank. He was incredibly thankful. Once upon a time I worked with street people and know that to give them cash can be dubious, but to fill a gas tank, that felt good.

  3. Richard Slayton says:

    John: There is a great book entitled: Essentialism: The Disciplined Pursuit of Less by Greg McKeown. Take a look at it and let me know what you think. Blessings,


  4. Matthew P. says:

    I was in a car line of an amusement park, about to pay the cashier the usually high price they require for parking. There was a car in the line next to me. The driver did not realize that the booth he was about to drive towards did not have an attendant in it. He had to scramble to quickly maneuver his car into my lane. Seeing his distress, I did as most people would do: I did a short honk of my mini-van horn and waived him over. He seemed pleased at the gesture. As he went through the cashier line in his car and sped on to enjoy his vacation, I followed in my car to the same cashier booth. As I went to pay, the cashier say something, “It’s all covered. The person before you just paid for yours.” It was a $20 cost–not a small amount paid by the guy in front of me for my simple but intentional gesture. One other value–an even better one–came from this exchange: My boys were in the car to witness it. I was able to pass on that, through the simple generosity of allowing someone to pull in front of me (which was not a big deal to me, but clearly was to the recipient), one benefitted. It allowed me to make the point to them that, “Having an open heart to helping others clearly can come back to you.”

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