Have you ever watched the TV show American Pickers? Two guys from Iowa travel the country scouting and buying (“picking”) antiques and collectibles. Mike and Frank make deals on these treasures and resell them for a living.
Most of the time another team member arranges meetings with sellers, but sometimes they free-style, driving the highways and stopping by homes, farms, and ranches that look like the owner has lots of stuff.
One of my neighbors at our farm is a free-style candidate. Sally, 75, lives in a double-wide on the same farm where she was born. Two generations of treasures clutter her place.
It’s a property only Sally or a picker could love, and at first blush it’s a turnoff to drive by, but not if you know Sally. Everything has a story and a past and is connected to a person in Sally’s life. Sally is the first to offer an engaging smile, a conversation, and her penetrating eye-to-eye presence.
I haven’t made up my mind about whether Sally has any money or not. She could be the millionaire next door. But never mind, she has taught me to slow down and do more than wave as I pass by. I stop, get out of my pickup, put my watch in my pocket, have a cup of tea, and visit.
I wonder, as we spend our relationship currency, if we are willing to take the time to be really present? And what treasures are waiting for us when we do?
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