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The Generosity Gaps

Do you think your generosity could be different than it is today? If something is holding you back, you could be in one of three Generosity Gaps. Are you ready to close the gaps and connect your generosity to your heart’s desire?

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The Generosity Gameplan™ Process

It helps to have a gameplan for living a generous life – a strategy that guides how you use your renewable generosity currencies. The Generosity Gameplan is a 7-step process that guides you as you make donations, direct your donor-advised fund, start a foundation or nonprofit, or devote more energy to philanthropy.

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Decades of experience as advisors to philanthropists, foundations, and nonprofits means we’ve got stories to share about how great relationships have resulted in fulfillment of our clients’ grandest dreams. And it all starts with a conversation.

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You’ve got the vision, now you need an execution plan to reach your goals. John Stanley helps major donors, strategic grant-makers, foundations, and nonprofits through private consultations, speaking events, and specialized management services.

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How Do I Measure Up?

girl measuring herself at chalkboardI wonder if like me, you have ever compared how generous you are to how generous someone else is.

Every time I make a charitable gift or volunteer somewhere there is always someone else who has given more or volunteered with more enthusiasm and effectiveness.  When I compare, I never measure up.  In fact, I’ve been told by psychologists that we tend to compare ourselves to others in areas where we don’t “measure up” and rarely where we do.

This has gotten me thinking that in a way there is a sense of shame when it comes to generosity.  Think about it.  A nonprofit you care deeply about invites you to make a gift to their capital campaign. At first, you think the ask is way out of your reach but you …

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Is It How Much We Give or How Much We Keep?

hand holding moneyOur rural parish, St. Phillips near our farm, is a beautiful small community of about a hundred families. Our pastor, Father Zachary, a missionary from Zimbabwe, speaks five languages and we listen closely to understand his words and often times amazing insights.

For a long time now I’ve been quite proud of my response when the offertory basket comes by. I always put the largest bill in my wallet in the basket. Never wanting to leave mass thinking, “What a cheapskate!” One weekend this fall I had just gone to the ATM on Saturday to get a little petty cash. I had five twenty dollar bills in my wallet. The basket came by, and I threw in a twenty.

Driving home from church I thought to myself, “You cheapskate!” Suddenly …

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“What attracts me to John Stanley’s Generosity Gameplan is the transformation of the concept of generosity from the material exchange of goods to the exchange of heart, soul, and goods…”

– Harville Hendrix
Safe Conversations Co-founder